Barrow County is a nice enough place. The editor of the local newspaper came out in favor of gay marriage, and no one complained too loudly. People are coming around. But still, it’s a small county without much of a scene for anything aside from drinking, racing, and mountain biking. Options for dating are limited even if you’re straight. So off I went to OKCupid.
OKCupid is a modestly popular free online dating site. I had a profile on the site from back when I was deep in denial and thought I simply hadn’t found the right woman. I ditched the site when none of the women appealed to me. So I gave it another shot with the orientation toggled on over to gay. There’s one gay guy on there within 5 miles of city limits, a few more in the county, and about 100 if I stretch my range out to Athens-Clarke County.
Some issues stood out:
1. About half of them have a picture of a woman hanging off their shoulder as a profile picture
This raises some important questions. Is he a closet case who hopes that someone outs him so he doesn’t have to do it himself? Did he select the wrong orientation? Is that his sister? Who knows. Next.
2. Broken human being
It’s cool that you acknowledge all your faults right there in your dating site profile, but you don’t seem eager to resolve them. Show me what you plan to do about it. Otherwise, they’re deal breakers. Next.
One guy OKCupid tried to hook me up with has pictures of him skydiving, posing in exotic locations, and having whacky adventures. I don’t mind getting out and exploring, but what do you do in your down time? Omitting this tells me you never stop partying, adventuring, or whatever to get away from something you’d rather not confront. Next.
4. Half-assed profile
Two sentences about how random you are tells me a lot about you. It tells me you lack the confidence to share anything about yourself. It tells me you need someone else to give you direction so you don’t have to look inward. Next.
So where does this leave me? As it turns out, I’m surrounded by very attractive people. Surrounded in relative terms. They’re about as unstereotypical as gay guys get: interested in racing, sports, bars. Usual straight guy fare. They probably get some mileage out of the bars.
That’s not my thing. Reading. Writing. Nature. Science. Technology. These are my things. So I’ll probably end up finding someone outside the dating site scene who happens to live nearby. Maybe I’ll bump into them checking out Nature magazine at the supermarket. But I don’t plan to stay here for long. I want to move close enough to a city to be within walking distance of something. The nearest anything is a 30 minute walk. I intend to get together enough income to move to Atlanta where I have more options.